Love story : Dee and Dang

You Have to Trust.

There is, without a doubt, much that stands against the couple that comes from such different cultures as Dang and I do. Culture, itself, is the largest, for it affects everything. You can’t do anything outside the scope of your culture. Dang and I are well-aware of that.

As my Love and I plan our lives together, we face many obstacles, as all couples do, I’m sure. There are two families to consider, logistics, our wants and needs, and the blind demands of our cultures. Culture asks of us without the ability to reason like family. It’s not a thinking being, but it is very much alive. It is both kind and cruel; uplifting and depressing…. all at the same time. Of course, it’s yin and yang, right?

Now, I think that the culture clash is the area that many who are truly in love fall. They succumb to the stress before they can figure out how to deal and cope. In my mind, there has to be a period of accepted stress- a time of trial and error (lots of error on my part).

Dang and I have seen our fair share of distress and tears, hurt and anger. But, we have embraced each other. We know, without saying a word, that we are accepting of this period of growth and discovery, no matter how painful, with love and forgiveness. We have faith that the other will see with open eyes, learn from mistakes, and grow toward each other.

I have, of recent, learned one lesson I think is paramount to our relationship. It can be summoned up quite simply: When you don’t understand- trust.

The lack of understanding, which is to be expected in an inter-cultural relationship, is one of the great stumbling blocks we face. Dang and I have faced it on numerous occasions; and after having done so countless times, I’ve come to see that my understanding (which is more than being knowledgeable) of Dang’s culture isn’t going to happen over night. It will be a life-time endeavor. So, how does one make it without instantaneous understanding?

The answer is instantaneous trust.

When I don’t understand, I trust. I have faith in Dang and her intentions for me and us. If you can’t trust the one you are going to marry that much, then maybe you should reconsider marriage. As for me and Dang, we can trust. Our love has proven that time and time again.

Mama, I trust you with my heart. I trust you with my mind. I trust you with my body. I trust you with my soul. You have proven yourself a good steward. I hope I can be the same for you. When I don’t understand, I trust.

Dee and Dang…. FOREVER!!!!

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Homeless, Again.

Today, I went to the airport to see Dang off for Thailand. Do I have to tell you how I am feeling…. of course not. My heart has been broken by her leaving and, once again, I find myself homeless in Korea.

For almost 3 weeks, Korea was home. It was bright, shiny, and I was happy here. When I left school, I knew I was going home, for Dang was there. For 3 weeks, I awoke with glee and was at peace; I didn’t want to jump out the window. Dang was always smiling at the door when I got home….

“Papa, I missed you!”

There were no smiles waiting for me when I got back to the apartment (it’s not home, anymore). There were no, “I love you’s…” no, “I’m happy to be home, Mama.”

Without Mama, all of Korea has changed. I look around this room, and I can’t recognize where I am. “Is this the same place I left this morning? Who changed this place? Why is it darker? Why is it so uninviting? Why do I hate it so?”

There are remnants of my Love’s stay here…. reminders of when this apartment was alive with her presence. I can’t stay here any longer. I have to get out of here!

Mama!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Come back to me!!!!!!

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Dee and Dang

My darling love is here with me right now in Seoul, South Korea. She’s been here since April 30. This is why I haven’t written in a while…. I’m spending time with my Love while I can, building inspiration for entries to come.

I was sitting here, while Mama makes lunch, looking at some photos from the last few days. I realized that we are everything. There is is no Dee without Dang. There is only Dee and Dang.

As I was thinking about my blog, I realized that it went from being about Dee to being about Dee and Dang. My life is consumed by our love- so much so that I could write about that and nothing else.

This blog isn’t about Dee’s day-to-day life. It’s about Dee and Dang. “Delous Morgan: Day-to-Day” doesn’t do our story justice. So, I’m announcing my intent on creating a blog dedicated to the story of Dee and Dang.

I’ll post a link to the blog when I have it up and running.

Dee and Dang……FOREVER!!!!

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