Time to Lay Old Dreams to Rest.
Thursday, December 4th, 2008Today, I was doing one of my favorite things- brainstorming. It was the usual- an idea for a website, or thinking about a degree, a new business, or something like that. As I was dreaming, it hit me, “This is the wrong direction to be focused.”
There is a place for dreaming (there should be a place for that in everyone’s life), but there is a time when the “dreaming” has to stop. When I say, “dreaming,” I mean thinking of a better life. When I say “dreaming,” I mean thinking of the ideal life where the sky is the limit- you know, the kind you do when you are planning for life after high school.
That idealized form of dreaming sustained me for the longest time. It pushed me to achieve much of what I’ve done and made me believe in the future. But, although I don’t want to give up on that hopefullness, there comes and time to check that dreaming with reality and logic.
I’m a married man now who hopes to be a father in a few years; I’m not the independent young man who had no one to worry or care about other than himself. I have to do what’s best for my family. I must provide for their immedidate needs and future dreams. There is no arguement that I can make for that- it’s just something that I feel.
When I was “dreaming” today, planning the building of an empire, I realized that what I was doing was irresponsible. “you have to fully embrace your role as husband,” I told myself, and it’s true.
My first priority is to my family. I have to guide and work toward their betterment first- not mine. So, when thinking of where to go from here, I must check the “dreaming” with logic, strategy, and realistic expectations. It is time to lay old “dreams” to rest.
